Keep asking yourself “Why am I so unlucky”? Are you gambling money and losing every time? Taking the wrong financial advice? Betting on sports teams and losing? Unlucky in love? Whatever it is, there’s something you need to know: you make your own luck
Instead of asking “why am I so unlucky” (in life, in love or anywhere else) you need to learn how to create luck by seeing the oppurtunities right in front of your eyes. Trust me, luck is in your life, you just need to tap into it. In this article we’ll reveal why you’ve been unlucky up to now and how you can turn your luck around.
Why am I So Unlucky?! Because you dont understand what luck is
Luck. Some people have it, some people don’t. And you want to be one of the chosen few who happen, oh so incidentally, upon success, wealth, love and happiness as though by chance, don’t you, my friend? You want to stop asking “Why am I so unlucky” and become one of the few people who seem to have it ll given to them.
But how exactly can you become lucky? After all, luck isn’t something we achieve or even something we can work on, is it? Luck is illusive, an intangible idea, a word we say to express something that seems to happen as though incidentally.
Here are some examples of what most people consider “luck”
- If someone happens to be out for a walk when at their feet they feel a scratch, whereupon they bend over and inspect the grass to find a ten pound note; they’re lucky.
If someone goes for a coffee alone one day and happens to see an attractive member of the opposite sex sitting by themselves too, whereupon the two hit it off; they’re lucky.
- If someone happens to overhear that there’s a new job opportunity that needs filling immediately and they end up getting it just because they were there; they’re lucky.
- If someone happens to have left the stove on and they smell gas just before lighting a cigarette and killing themselves; they’re lucky.
These are just a few typical examples of ways in which people might be lucky, and as with the vast majority of lucky incidents, they come down to discovering something or finding something.
If you can teach yourself to be more observant, more curious and more aware, you will see the opportunities for good fortune in your life. If you can be mindful, you will increase your luck. So, how do we become more mindful and thereby more lucky? We’ll show you how on the next page.
With the exception of lottery tickets and certain gambles that are deliberately set-up to be pure luck, luck in life comes down to becoming aware of something. We feel the ten pound note, see the attractive person, hear the job opportunity and smell the gas. If we are lucky, we keep becoming aware of good things. But if we’re one of the people who keep asking “why am I so unlucky?” then we keep coming across the bad things instead.
The central ingredient in every lucky incident is this: a person become aware of something good. We find the ten pound note. We see the hot girl. We overhear the opportunity. We smell the gas. Yet rather than saying that the people in these examples have good observational skills, most people would say they were lucky. Why?
The answer is that most people believe that these lucky incidents don’t exist for them. “Oh I wish I could have felt money at my foot,”—the average person says—“you must be lucky.” But the odds are that we have all most likely walked right past money—whether it be real physical money or the opportunity to make money—we simply didn’t see it. We’re so preoccupied with our thoughts, so busy asking, “Why am I so unlucky” that we spend our every day walking past our luck while pretending it doesn’t exist.
“Why am I so unlucky?” is a thought a great many of us frequently have, and it’s not far wrong, it just needs a little tweaking. Let’s change it to “Why dont I ever find luck” and recognise that it’s the finding part that matters.
If we are to be lucky, we must be good at finding, discovering and spotting. To experience “lucky” incidents, we have to be aware of them, and to be aware of them, we need to spend less time obsessing over our thoughts and a lot more time focussing on the world outside ourselves. We need to be aware of the feeling of that itch at our foot, aware of the sight of an attractive person, aware of the voices of the people speaking about the job, and aware of the smell of gas. We need to take our focus away from thoughts like “they’re lucky and I’m not” and we need to put that focus where it belongs, on our senses and on the world outside ourselves, a world where opportunity and luck sit right now, waiting for our open eyes.
Here’s a very interesting video about mindfulness and luck