I used to keep asking myself “How can I make myself happy.” I used to seek out ways to make yourself happy. Then I realised the truth about happiness: IT comes to YOU . . . when you let it.
How can I make myself happy?
It’s safe to say that at times we all question life, wondering what the keys to happiness are, wondering how to find happiness inside yourself , trying to discover our purpose in life.
It’s something I myself am guilty of doing too often. I’m writing this post two minutes after getting in from a walk in the rain in England. I actually went for the walk to meditate, but I soon found myself thinking about those redundant questions like “What is the purpose of life” and “how can i make myself happy?” Don’t get me wrong, I’m a happy guy 90% of the time, but I still question things. Perhaps you’re the same.
Yes, I’m the sort of character who keeps questioning and searching, but I never find anything. I’m the sort of person who, like yourself, Google’s something like “ways to make yourself happy”. . . BUT. . .
Asking how to make yourself happy and looking for ways to make yourself happy ends up fruitless. Looking for happiness is like a cute little puppy running round and round in circles, only finding his own tail.
So there I was walking through the village here in Oxfordshire, my mind frantically searching for answers to how to find happiness inside yourself when I remembered that old quote that you don’t find anything by looking. I can’t remember who said the quote, because the first time I heard it I thought it was romantic codswallop, but there it came, racing into my mind. Now, as I believe in the subconscious and that if ideas like that suddenly jump into your head, there’s probably a reason for it and you should pay attention, I decided to give the saying it little more credence. Instead of focusing on searching, trying to find my purpose in life and looking for happiness within myself, I decided I’d focus on finding, paying attention to the things I was coming across on my walk, which I guess is essentially the same thing as being mindful.
Well, let me tell you, that one little change of thought completely changed the way I was looking at the world. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still the same guy I was before the walk, but I do feel very differently right now to how I did before my walk and before my change of perspectives.
And so I’m writing this post for one simple reason, really; to make a suggestion: instead of trying to look for ways to make yourself happy, simply pay attention to what’s happening outside yourself. Stop being the type of character who keeps probing in your own mind for all the answers and instead focus on finding, focus on what is directly in front of your eyes right now. There’s an innate positivity about the finding frame of mind. Give it a shot and see how much of a difference it makes! You’ll find this is one of the best ways to make yourself happy.