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Keep asking yourself "Why am I so unhappy?" Then you may have fallen victim of one of the main causes of depression and anxiety. In this article we'll reveal why you're feeling depressed and what to do about it.
Let me describe to you a time of personal unhappiness in my life, then tell me if it sounds familiar.
There was a time when I would feel like I have nothing and I would want everything. I was hungry. Hungry for women, for money, for success, for fame (I’m an actor so fame is, in this field, almost like a very large promotion—it’s desired). I craved. I would look at the life I had, determine it as not being good enough and then desire more.
At times, I would get more. There were times when, as an actor, I scored roles I really wanted. There were times when I got lucky in love. There were times when I was popular. I had fortune. Sure, I wasn’t a millionaire and I wasn’t a mega movie star, but I had more than enough to be thankful for. The problem? Instead of being thankful all I could thing was “What next?”
Does this sound familiar to you?
In most society’s around the world today, we are made to want more and more and more. I suppose it is the result of capitalism. Companies want to sell more and more products. How do they sell them? By making you want them. You want the iPhone 700 because the iPhone 699 has been out for a good two months now. . .. Advertising, social statutes and the idea of “keeping up with the Jones’” makes us feel like we need more and more and more. And guess where it stops? That’s right, nowhere.
You get the iPhone 700, the laptop with the four billion gigs RAM and the Porsche that only last month seemed like a fantasy, you enjoy them for what. . . a week? Then suddenly they’re not good enough and you want the next thing.
It’s not just products. Some people are the same way about relationships. Some people want new relationships all the time, others just want their relationship to get better and better and better, thinking it’s never good enough.
The idea of having more and more and more is never going to lead you or I to happiness. We will never be content while looking for faults in things, while looking for ways things could be better.
Lack of contentment is one of the main causes of depression and anxiety
“Why I am so unhappy?” you ask.Because you are caught in the cycle or more and more, better and better. And that cycle is not conducive to happiness nor contentment.
Thankfully, there is a way out of this knot. The way out of this knot of unhappiness is easy to understand, yet a challenge in application. The way out of the knot is this:
Realise is it all bullshit.
Yes. It is bullshit. The idea of needing more and more and more is the most absurd, stupid, depressing and fruitless way you could possibly live your life. You will never genuinely be happy while looking for faults, while asking how things could be better, while wondering what comes next, while desiring the next best thing.
So how do you become happy? The answer is to accept life as it is, to focus on the present moment, to live in the here and now.
As I previously stated, that’s an easy idea to comprehend, but it is perhaps not so easy to apply. That’s why I’m suggesting this list of recommended reading on how to let go and live in the present moment. Some of the articles below are 100% free—you can read them here on this site. The remainder are books to purchase. All of these, however, meet the same aim: they instruct in how to live in the present moment, how to stop the cycle of wanting more and more In other words, they instruct how to be happy, now.
Here are the articles and books I recommend.
Stop Asking "Why Am I so Unhappy" by reading these. . .
Mindfulness in plain english -- explains meditation and mindfulness in simple terms. Very useful title.
Authentic Happiness -- Positive psychology of happiness. Get this if you're into science and psychology and want some great exercises on being happy
The Power of Now -- living in the present moment and finding inner peace by being present (extremely helpful in getting over the MORE MORE MORE, BETTER BETTER BETTER attitude)
You're about to read some extremely interesting facts about depression. Some of these facts about depression might actually shock you (you'll see what I mean when you read the statistic for the percentage of Americans taking antidepressants. . . !) Without further ado, here are the most interesting facts about depression.
Facts About Depression
Extremely Interesting Facts About Depression 1 - 10
– 15 million people in the USA suffer from depression according to the statistics of the American Psychiatrical Association
– In the USA, depression is the second most common reason to get a sick-list
– living in overpopulated areas and taking in too much information (which could, for instance, include being on the inter net too much) are common causes of depression
– According to the World Health Organization, by 2020, depression will be most common form of illness
– Over 150 million people every year becomes disabled due to depression.
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Fact 6 – Researchers of the New-York University established that depression destroys nerve cells in the front part of the cerebral cortex, which is responsible for optimism.
– The American Psychiatrical Association comprised this list of the most depression-prone professions:
Baby-sitters, nannies, nurses and the unemployed (12.7%),
People working in public catering: waiters, cooks and barmen (10.3%),
Doctors, nurse and social workers (9.6%).
The odds of developing depression decrease when we do not associate with smokers.
– A spontaneous recovering after a lingering depression is very rare and takes about 10% among all cases, though the return of depression in such situations comes in the next 2-4 years.
– According to the researches carried out in the USA, people with frequent depressions have a two times higher chance to die from other diseases than other people.
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We reveal how to bear anxiety naturally with simple, effective and healthy steps to beating anxiety.
How To Beat Anxiety Naturally
In today's modern age we are completely obsessed with quick fixes, even though quick fixes often are not the healthiest option. We want to feel better, but being dependent on pills is far from good. It is much better to deal with things naturally. The only question is how to beat anxiety naturally.
We'll reveal how to beat anxiety naturally below, but first let me clarify: there are times for medication, and medication for anxiety can work for many people. Medication should not be the first port of call, however. It is much better to try to cure anxiety naturally before taking pills.
With that in mind I'd like to share five great ways how to beat anxiety naturally.
How To Beat Anxiety Naturally 1 : Support
A support group can be an immensely helpful think when dealing with anxiety. You can join a specific anxiety support group, or you can rely on your friends and family. Both are very good and healthy options. Emotional support will improve your confidence and naturally empower you to overcome anxiety.
How To Beat Anxiety Naturally 2 : Nutrition
Your diet is very important to anxiety. The problem is that when we're stressed we tend to eat quick meals which are not healthy and which lead to more stress. It becomes a cycle that needs to be broken. Eat three meals a day, all healthy, sticking to healthy amounts of fat and sugar, and try to eat lots of veg. Limit caffeine too.
How To Beat Anxiety Naturally 3 : Walk
Walking is a fantastic way of getting some exercise and relaxing. Even better than regular walking, however, is zen walking. To do a zen walking meditation, find a path somewhere quiet away from road. Then begin walking slowly, focusing absolutely on the movement. Pay attention to each part of your step. this will focus your mind, promote mind body connection and remove negative thoughts.
How To Beat Anxiety Naturally 4 : Breathe
Breathing. You probably do it quite a lot already. You might not do it in the best way though. Try to breathe slowly, deeply into your lungs allow you whole body to fill with air. When you have ten minutes, do a breathing meditation by focusing your mind entirely on the process of breathing. This is another great relaxation exercise which will help tremendously.
How To Beat Anxiety Naturally 5 : Get Help
If the above steps do not work I recommend asking for help from a professional. The ability to ask for help when we need it is a great character strength and will the professinal advice you glean is certain to help.
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The Top Ten Self Help and Self Improvement Gurus
Deepak Chopra:
Time magazine called Deepak Chopra the “poet-prophet of alternative medicine.” Chopra has released over 50 self help books and is most famous for his work on enhancing the mind / body connection. He advocates such techniques as healing through meditation and body scanning.
Best Deepak Chopra Quote: “In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you.”
How to do it: Meditate so you can be mindful even in the toughest of times.
Eckhart Tolle
Born in Germany and educate in Cambridge, Eckhart Tolle is probably the only self help guru to be able to inspire people as shallow as Paris Hilton (who read The Power of Now in jail). Eckhart Tolle advocates the teaching of Zen Bufddhism, including Zen walking meditation, mindfulness and oneness.
Best Eckhart Tolle Quote: “The past has no power over the present moment.”
How to do it: Live in the here and now. By being present and aware we empower ourselves to become the creative beings we are made to be.
Jack Canfield
One of the most influential figures in bringing self help to the mainstream, Jack Canfield is famous for his “Chicken Soup For The Soul” line of books which sold by the truck load. His self help tips include the standard fair of positive thinking. What makes Jack Canfield a great self help writer is that he is very down to Earth compared to his contemporaries.
Best Jack Canfield Quote: “Most everything that you want is just outside your comfort zone.”
How to do it: Do one thing you think your cannot do. This will make you believe you can do practically anything.
Dale Carnegie
Dale Carnegie was an American lecturer, writer and self improvement / self help guru famous for his book How To Win Friends And Influence People. Among his most important teachings are the ida (and now proven fact) that you can change the behaviour of other people by changing the way you act towards them.
Best Dale Carnegie Quote: Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.
How To Do It: Be thankful for what you have in life. This breeds a mentality of having rather than wanting.
Jon Kabat Zinn
Jon Kabat Zinn essentially took the teachings of Thich Naht Hahn and brought them to the West. His central teaching revolve around mindfulness and mindfulness based stress reduction. He advocates getting in touch with the senses and being alive to the world.
Best Jon Kabat Zinn Quote: “Wherever you go, there you are”
How To Do It: Again, mindfulness is the key here. “Wherever you go, there you are” essentially means to be present and in the moment. To accomplish that, practice mindfulness based meditations.
Wayne Dyer
International bestselling author of more than thirty books and one of the most famous faces in self improvement thanks to his very busy TV schedule, Wayne Dyer advocates philosophies associated to the New Thought Movement (which states that god is within us all and that our thoughts and mind hold unbridled power).
Best Wayne Dyer Quote: If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
How To Do It: Don’t just accept your own thoughts and beliefs as gospel. Challenge the way you look at the world. Look at things in new ways. This will change your perception of reality.
Stephen Covey
Most famous for his groundbreaking self improvement / personal development book “7 Habits” Steven Covey also sells products designed to make you more efficient and more successful – e.g planners and schedules. Covey studies as a Harvard MBA student and approaches self help with a business mentality. His advice is practical, straight-up no nonsense facts.
Best Stephen Covey Quote: There are three constants in life... change, choice and principles.
How to do it: Getting into the frame of mind where you understand that your own sincerity and resolution of mind are what ultimately matter.
Napoleon Hill
Napoleon Hill learned his teachings from Andrew Carnegie, the American steel magnate. Carnegie taught Napoleon Hill that success was a formula, a process anyone could follow. This led to his first book “The Law of Success.” This was followed by “Think and Grow Rich.” The book advocated 17 success principles, of which the first is “Definition of Purpose.”
Best Napoleon Hill Quote : A goal is a dream with a deadline.
How To Do It: Stop wishing on the future. Write down your life goal. State it precisely. Now attached a date to it. Pin it on the wall. You now have an official statement of what you will achieve and when. Now go do it.
Tony Robbins
Tony Robbins first gained attention in infomercials where he promoted Jim Rohn’s seminars. He then started his own seminars. His seminars are known for personality and are designed to stir excitement. They focus on immediate action. His two main teachings are : 1) keep energy and excitement high and 2) change negative thoughts for positive ones.
Best Tony Robbins Quote: If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten.
How to do it: Do something new, whatever it is. New action leads us to new places.
Richard Carlson
Richard Carlson hit the bestasellers list with Dont Sweat the Small Stuff. Though Carlson was panned by critics at the time, in hindsight many have come to see his works as masterpieces. He advocated simple and practical advice, stating that we don’t need lofty ideas or clever plans, just a good slice of perspective.
Best Richard Carlson Quote: “Don't sweat the small stuff...and it's all small stuff.”
How to do it: Put things in perspective. Your issues probably aren’t that earth shatteringly important, to be frank. One day you’ll back and wonder what you ever worried for, so you might as well just stop worrying today.